Movie Review: ‘Between the Temples’
In Between the Temples, the new film from writer/director Nathan Silver (not to be confused with statistician Nate Silver), Jason Schwartzman stars as Ben, a Jewish cantor somewhere in upstate New York grieving the recent loss of his wife Ruth. She was a firecracker, a hard drinking novelist with a striking resemblance to a young Joan Didion, who took a bad fall on the street one winter’s night and busted her head open. Without her, Ben seems to have regressed back to adolescence; he’s living in his mother’s basement, a permanent mope on his face, and donning a big, ugly winter jacket he probably fished out of basement storage. Life would be some kind of purgatory, if the Jews believed in that. Suddenly, an unexpected person re-enters his life—Carla O’Connor, his former grade school music teacher, played by Carol Kane in a revelatory turn. The two are about to change each other’s lives in ways they never expected.
Carla is in her 70’s now, and though she always wanted a bat mitzvah she never had one. As a widow seeking to integrate her life passages, she decides it’s finally time to have one and enlists a skeptical Ben to prepare her for it. Hilariously neurotic hijinks ensue in a tale akin to Harold and Maude (minus the roll in the hay). Despite being in seemingly disparate stages of life, the two embark on a connection that defies categorization. Student and teacher, sure, but it soon becomes clear that the lessons will not be limited to Carla’s Torah portion, much to the chagrin of both Ben and Carla’s families.
Between the Temples is a refreshing comedy that comes at a time when what it means to be Jewish in America seems especially ripe for debate. In preparing Carla for her bat mitzvah, the odd couple have unleashed a flood of unsolicited opinions from friends and family on the right and wrong way to do things—not only in Jewish tradition, but in life itself. What does Jewish tradition have to say about the right way to grieve? The importance of family? Whether it’s acceptable to use a shofar as a makeshift golf hole for in-office putting practice? To answer some of these difficult questions, we have our rituals and customs. They make the gray areas of life much easier to manage, don’t they? They also have historically kept our diasporic people together in a world that has often seemed intent on tearing us apart.
Between the Temples often plays like a Mel Brooks movie reimagined as a Sundance film; nothing is off-limits.
Of course our commitment to ritual means that there are endless setups and punch lines waiting to be executed. Thankfully, in the United States humor is as much a part of Jewish tradition as matzah ball soup. Between the Temples often plays like a Mel Brooks movie reimagined as a Sundance film; nothing is off-limits, whether it be suicide, interfaith marriage or the Holocaust. There are a relentless number of gags, not only presented in characters’ words and actions but in the sound design and cinematography: the constant murmur of voices and overlapping dialogue as a symphonic representation of a Jewish family dinner, the steady pouring of wine, wine and more wine. I suppose one could take offense at some of the humor, but for the sake of survival, we Jews have had to be able to laugh at ourselves. If we couldn’t, we would find the world to be quite the inhospitable place, more inhospitable than it already is.
Yet Between the Temples isn’t just a comedy about Judaism, it is also a touching exploration of the ways in which rules, rituals and customs can limit us. As much as they serve to bind us together, they can also divide when deployed as rigid purity tests. One of the reasons that Carla never had a bat mitzvah is that her parents were communists who strongly objected to organized religion. Not only that, but her mother was not Jewish. I found this particularly powerful, as it related to my own story.
As a Jew with a non-Jewish mother, I’ve been told at various points in my life that I am not really Jewish. One hundred percent of the time, it is fellow Jews doing it, and my response has always been—then what was all that Sunday school and Hebrew school for? (It should be noted that Jason Schwartzman is likewise only half Jewish, on his father’s side. The nephew of the famously Italian-American Francis Ford Coppola, his mother is Talia Shire of Rocky fame). Why did I have a bar mitzvah? If I’m not really Jewish, then what was up with all that Jewish stuff I did? At one point, Ben wanders into a Catholic church and has a discussion with a priest. Comparing the religions, Ben notes that as Jews we have no concept of heaven or hell. “What about doing good for the time that you’re here and not worrying about later?” he asks. It’s that line between belief and action that Between the Temples does such a good job of exploring. If Judaism is about what we do with the time we have on earth, then why such an emphasis on things that are beyond our control?
To that end, Between the Temples wants us to embrace our hypocrisies, not cast them aside. Why is it that you can’t get a tattoo but you can get atrocious plastic surgery? Sure, you can’t combine meat and dairy, but if you accidentally take a few bites of a cheeseburger, can you not admit how delicious it tastes? Life is precious, and if all it takes for a life to disappear are a few stiff drinks and a slip on the ice, then what does it really matter if your mother was Episcopalian or that you can’t take photos of Shabbat dinner?
The movie begins with the sound of a shofar, a call to attention. Appropriate, since the movie itself feels like a particularly hilarious sermon on the state of being Jewish in modern-day America.
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Andy Freedman is a film critic based in Philadelphia, PA
Top Image: Jason Schwartzman (L) as Ben Gottlieb and Carol Kane (R) as Carla Kessler in Between the Temples. Image: Sean Price Williams. Courtesy of Sony Pictures Classics.
It was awful and made a mockery of the Jewish community. Nothing funny or uplifting.
There was nothing slap stick about this movie. While the acting was good, the story seemed uneven to me and the characters seemed like stereotypes. A recent movie I loved – Treasure- based on the book by Lily Brent “Too Many Men” seemed to come and go so quickly. Likely this latter well-done film didn’t have a budget for promotion. Such a pity.
I wanted to like this movie-but the more I think about it the angrier I get! There’s nothing funny about grief becoming depression; anxiety or dysfunction. The stereotypes were uncomfortable. The obvious inconsistencies about basic Jewish laws made it obvious that the producers did not consult with someone who would provide some insight. Harold and Maude was much more uplifting!
Disappointing in every single way, and all of my friends agree. It’s amazing all top critics on rotten tomatoes gave positive reviews.
From a credible Jewish angle, which most moviegoers don’t know or care about, of course it is more than disappointing. Know this right from the start when Cantor opens his mouth to introduce service with Yedid Nefesh. He sung “Ya”, not “Ye”.
I did try to ignore all the Jewish touchstones but it was impossible because of course they’re very relevant and all characters operate within that context.
And there’s much more – practically every character was filmed in a tight shot.
My 2 cents.
Disappointing in every single way, and all of my friends agree. It’s amazing all top critics on rotten tomatoes gave positive reviews. From a credible Jewish angle, which most moviegoers don’t know or care about, of course it is more than disappointing. Know this right from the start when Cantor opens his mouth to introduce service with Yedid Nefesh. He sung “Ya”, not “Ye”. I did try to ignore all the Jewish touchstones but it was impossible because of course they’re very relevant and all characters operate within that context. And there’s much more – practically every character was filmed in a tight shot. My 2 cents
I did not like most of this movie. It was Jewishly incorrect and rarely funny. I am amazed at all the positive reviews. Carol Cane was fairly good in her role. Jason S. seemed to be doing a “Rainman” imitation. I invited the Catholic men sitting next to me to visit our Temple to get some idea of what Judaism is actually about and to experience an actual rabbi. In these days of escalating antisemitism, this movie is not timely at all!
I was embarrassed for me.
I absolutely agree with most of these sentiments. I was horrified and disgusted–and I am baffled as to how the author here could find this an acceptable movie.
How Interesting
The reviewers liked it and the “Thought” comments were negative.
My wife and I were disappointed in the film and we noted in the Tampa FL areas the movie was only on one small screen.
My husband and I, who are Jewish professionals and movie buffs, were really looking forward to this movie. We’d seen the amazing reviews and wanted to support one of the few solidly Jewish themed movies out there. I ignored the sour faces of the few friends who’d already seen it, hoping for the best.
Wow, was it awful! We found it weird and borderline insulting. Cinematically, the tone was all over the place; obviously the creators were going for a Harold and Maud vibe, complete with 1968 mania, but it came off as amateurish, while the heavy-handed artsy dinner scene just went on and on! The side characters were sickos or just horrible (though I liked his two moms), and I wanted to dive under my seat when they trotted out the cartoonishly botoxed rabbi’s wife. Was that painfully unfunny stereotype really necessary?
Supposedly the writers (one of whom was not Jewish) and the director sought out a few “experts” here and there to get the Jewish stuff right, but it doesn’t show. Most likely, the experts said, “Umm, that would never happen”, and the writers simply ignored them for the sake of tasteless jokes or preposterous plot points. Such a disappointment!
To Andy Freedman, I am not commenting on the movie, having not seen it, but would like to comment on your comments…Technically, if your father is Jewish, you are Jewish; if your mother (only) is Jewish, you are not. That is Biblical fact! Rabbi’s and Christian leaders can have their own opinions and historical decisions, but fact is fact…it’s in the Bible. Much in this life seems like it is beyond control…not so much in the Spiritual realm. God speaks to us in the Bible: “You will seek Me and find Me when you search for Me with all your heart, and I will be found by you, declares the Lord…” We are not helpless, we can act and expect answers and solutions according to the above. As Jews, it is clear He, God, has already chosen them…it is up to you to reach out and receive what is yours. He is for you and loves you with an everlasting love and has a great plan for you future…the Rabbi’s and Priests don’t! LOVE
Scripture from Jeremiah 29:13. Also, thanks to the others for a warning about the movie!