Memorial ceremonies are not meant to take away our pain. Ritualized and structured, they are supposed to give us an outline for living with the pain and grief.
Thousands came together—Arabs and Jews, religious and secular, Bedouin women in heavy black hijabs and hipsters with tattoos and piercings—to mourn the loss of this remarkable woman.
“The incitement and rhetoric did not come from all sides. In Israel, incitement reads from right to left.”
In many ways, sharing pain seems to be a radical, dangerous act. If we focus solely on our own hurt, we may not have to ask why we were hurt. But if you accept “the other’s” pain, you start to think that pain might not be necessary for either side.
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