AN OUTPOURING OF LOVE FOR LETTY COTTIN POGREBIN AND HER HUSBAND BERT
Letty Cottin Pogrebin’s “A ‘Mixed’ Marriage, a Lifelong Journey” (Summer 2024), on what she and her husband Bert z”l, who died in March, taught each other about Judaism over their six-decade-long partnership, received an outpouring of loving appreciation from readers. “I smiled the entire time I read this,” said TV writer and humorist Sybil Sage, “embracing the love, warmth, honesty and humor of two people who found the right partner.” Journalist Debra Nussbaum Cohen thanked Pogrebin for “sharing a bit of your dear husband with me and your legion of fans,” adding, “There is such grace in your writing.” “The last line made me cry,” author and theater director Toby Klein Greenwald shared. “What a wonderfully humane piece,” said Vanity Fair’s David Margolick, calling it “a great tribute to a man and to a marriage.”
Some remembrances came from friends of the couple. “Letty, I love all of your writing but I think this is the most tender and touching piece—with some Bert stories that I never heard before,” wrote the Orthodox feminist writer Blu Greenberg. “Bert was a love and a mensch, and despite your differences in religious background and theological beliefs, it was those shared qualities that bound you together and that made your marriage a model for all the world.” Author and autism advocate Liane Kupferberg Carter agreed: “Letty, I’m so sorry for your loss. What a mensch your husband was.”
Others said that the piece reminded them of their own unions. “My husband is not Jewish and I am, but no two people are closer or share the same values as we do,” said novelist and screenwriter Helen Schulman. “You sound like very lucky people, in family and in love and in purpose…It is a mitzvah to share this with all of us,” Schulman commented, adding, “I am so impressed by your exuberance for life and life-long activism.” “A beautiful story, Letty—and a knockout of a bathing suit too!” another reader commented, referring to the mod 1960s-era black suit she’s wearing in one of the photos of the couple featured in the piece. “My own family narrative parallels yours in many ways. Thanks for sharing.” The actress Jane Alexander wrote, “My late ‘red diaper baby’ husband Ed Sherin sounds so much like Bert. Ed said the Christian prayers at my holidays and graced my mother by marrying me in her Episcopal church. Bert and Ed were big-hearted, generous men, and I know we both miss their presence on this great earth.”